The Person You Hate, God Loves

Some of us have hatred in our hearts, but we don’t identify it as ‘hate’ because we feel justified in our emotions.

But this judgement is faulty because it’s ‘human judgement’ and many times human judgement lack grace and mercy. We must see others through the eyes of God. I know it’s easier said than done- but it’s attainable.

How else are you able to genuinely pray for an enemy? How else can you forgive the molester? How else can you turn the other cheek when slapped with betrayal? Easy. You consciously and intentionally make the decision to LOVE THOSE WHO GOD LOVES. Hate only breeds sickness in our bodies (e.g., in some cases- your own heart will attack you aka heart attack and heart disease). Forgive. Let go. And love.

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Listennnn, the enemy is working overtime to breakup covenant relationships which includes marital covenants, family, church, ordained friendships and business partners.

He’s whispering lies on both ends. He’s making one side highly accusatory, paranoid and suspicious, while highlighting the short comings of the other party. Now, although most of what you’re hearing and seeing are indeed facts, THIS doesn’t negate the malicious intent to cause offense and subsequently premature separation, divorce, and lawsuits.

The word says to “make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” (Colossians 3:13)

I implore you, hold tight to what GOD blessed and entrusted you with. There’s a powerful reason why you’re together (CHOSEN) and even more reason why you’re being tempted to leave. #StayForRealWoke #NoManIsWithoutSin #Message #InsideTheHeartOfGod #InsideTheEnemysCamp #BeNotIgnorantOfHisDevices #GIRLYWithNoApologies


Love always,

La’Tivia Elizabeth, G.W.N.A.

It’s Time to Make a Decision


“You will decide on a matter, and it will be established for you, and light will shine on your ways.” ~ Job 22:28

Family, sometimes all it takes is one decision! One unique moment in time where faith and action meets opportunity. One moment in time where you make up in your mind that “xyz” will occur or no longer occur. One moment in time where the doubt ceases and you CHOOSE to believe God. One moment in time where you are tired of losing or feeling discontent. Just one decision.
It’s in our wavering, teeter tottering, lukewarmness, and lack of faith that causes us to be tossed like a pendulum, repeating trials and tests that were only meant to last for a moment, not a lifetime.
Once you repeat a thing/season/trial/test, it then produces a lifestyle of non-stop recycling and rehearsing. Rehearsing for an event that may never occur due to our lack of decision-making. Rehearsing for the grand finale, without DECIDING to go through the process. Family, it’s time to DECIDE and put away our dress rehearsal.
What are you being called to decide on? Now go in peace.
~Author La’Tivia Elizabeth, GIRLY With No Apologies


I Was This Close


Lord, send me to the ones you’ve built me to minister to.

Can I be transparent? Anyone that truly knows me knows that I love women. Not in that way silly. But I truly have a heart for women from all walks of life. I love sharing beauty tips, wisdom, relationship advice or whatever. But as of recent ,the enemy has attempted to make me despise the very thing I was sent to minister to. Tricky devil he is.

I’ve experienced conniving, jealous, competitive, insecure, backbiting, lying, Jezebel, “think I’m better than you” spirits inhabiting women. Sigh. I was THIS CLOSE from shutting down shop (ministry and friendships) but God! “Tivi, it’s not about YOU.”

People of God, be not deceived. Satan will attack the very area you were built for. You want to know where your ministry lies? Take inventory and assess where you get attacked mostly. If your area of ministry is marriage- then don’t find it strange when your marriage gets attacked.  If your area to dominate is within the marketplace, i.e. corporate America- then don’t find it outrageous  when your counterparts are attacking you, constantly attempting to set you up, or testing your integrity. Remember, your assignments (people) need for you to OVERCOME so that they may as well. The word tells us in Revelation 12:11, And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death


I love you all. I do. #GIRLYWithNoApologies

~La’Tivia Elizabeth



Genesis 2:18, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Now ladies AND gentlemen, look at the last 3 words, “SUITABLE FOR HIM.”

Let this echo in your heart: “SUITABLE FOR HIM”


“Suitable” means, “right or appropriate for a particular person, purpose, or situation.“ This means that you were CREATED and MOLDED specifically for the person God has ordained you to marry. Which further means  your personality, body shape, attitude, facial features, business savvy, wisdom, gifts (both carnal and spiritual), talents, past experiences AND most of all purpose, were tailor-made APPROPRIATELY AND SPECIFICALLY for your GOD ORDAINED mate.

Sis, you may sometimes wonder, “Why am I great with numbers (accounting), strategically organized, can multi-task like no one’s business, can handle administration services with ease?” You may even feel like it doesn’t go with your current job/career. Well sis, don’t be shocked WHEN you meet your husband and those very innate traits and gifts you possess will be needed  for his current or upcoming business venture. Maybe he’s doing very well with the ‘product’, but not the front end office work. Maybe he’s being cheated in his incoming revenue due to inappropriate accounting, maybe he’s losing clients because there’s no follow-up or organized marketing taking place…but guess what? This is where YOU fit in Woman of God- with all of your gifts and talents and in essence, your genetic makeup. You were made for HIM.Now don’t get mad at me ladies, this is the word of God. Yes, we all have individual PURPOSES in life, but at the end of the day you are a HELPMATE. To help means to support,  aid, “make it easier for someone to do something by offering one’s services or resources”, to serve, improve, or “be of benefit to.” Do you see the weight that you carry? It’s not solely about getting your Ph.D. and believing you’ve reached the plateau of your career…no, it’s about IMPROVING that man God has intricately designed you for (and yes you can do BOTH). It’s about helping him become his best as well. It’s about being his ‘co-warrior’- assisting in fighting for the Kingdom of God, it’s about being his teammate (helpmate)- tag teaming in prayer, fasting, supplication, service, ministry, raising the children and etc.

Sis, I truly believe as soon as we can understand our role AND its importance within the marriage, how much easier things will begin to flow. We will stop battling to be the decision maker, the head, the provider, the protector, the KING…No, we are Queens! Unfortunately, recent history has taught us that we have to be the stronger vessel because ‘we can’t depend on a man.’ We’ve seen so many of our homes become single- leaving our little boys to be raised by women.

I get it…I WAS that woman that felt like I had to be the rock of the family; I was not going to submit because I didn’t ‘trust’. But no sir, I now gladly give that weight back to my future husband. I’m here to add to you, to assist you, to provide all of my delicate yet powerful intricacies, in order to make this flow better baby. That’s my role. I know it. #FollowTheLeader

I truly pray that this helps someone that’s battling being submissive or the role of submission. We submit to one another…but lighten your load sis. Give it to God and God will give IT to ‘him’ (husband). “It” being whatever he needs to be a better provider, protector, leader, and etc. You cannot CHANGE him nor attempt to take on his role simply because he’s failing as a leader, the provider or whatever. You take it to God in prayer, and THERE… is where change and growth will take place.


I’m coming down your aisle in just a few…hold on, I’ll be back. J

Now go in peace.

~La’Tivia Elizabeth

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