Genesis 2:18, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Now ladies AND gentlemen, look at the last 3 words, “SUITABLE FOR HIM.”
Let this echo in your heart: “SUITABLE FOR HIM”
“Suitable” means, “right or appropriate for a particular person, purpose, or situation.“ This means that you were CREATED and MOLDED specifically for the person God has ordained you to marry. Which further means your personality, body shape, attitude, facial features, business savvy, wisdom, gifts (both carnal and spiritual), talents, past experiences AND most of all purpose, were tailor-made APPROPRIATELY AND SPECIFICALLY for your GOD ORDAINED mate.
Sis, you may sometimes wonder, “Why am I great with numbers (accounting), strategically organized, can multi-task like no one’s business, can handle administration services with ease?” You may even feel like it doesn’t go with your current job/career. Well sis, don’t be shocked WHEN you meet your husband and those very innate traits and gifts you possess will be needed for his current or upcoming business venture. Maybe he’s doing very well with the ‘product’, but not the front end office work. Maybe he’s being cheated in his incoming revenue due to inappropriate accounting, maybe he’s losing clients because there’s no follow-up or organized marketing taking place…but guess what? This is where YOU fit in Woman of God- with all of your gifts and talents and in essence, your genetic makeup. You were made for HIM.Now don’t get mad at me ladies, this is the word of God. Yes, we all have individual PURPOSES in life, but at the end of the day you are a HELPMATE. To help means to support, aid, “make it easier for someone to do something by offering one’s services or resources”, to serve, improve, or “be of benefit to.” Do you see the weight that you carry? It’s not solely about getting your Ph.D. and believing you’ve reached the plateau of your career…no, it’s about IMPROVING that man God has intricately designed you for (and yes you can do BOTH). It’s about helping him become his best as well. It’s about being his ‘co-warrior’- assisting in fighting for the Kingdom of God, it’s about being his teammate (helpmate)- tag teaming in prayer, fasting, supplication, service, ministry, raising the children and etc.
Sis, I truly believe as soon as we can understand our role AND its importance within the marriage, how much easier things will begin to flow. We will stop battling to be the decision maker, the head, the provider, the protector, the KING…No, we are Queens! Unfortunately, recent history has taught us that we have to be the stronger vessel because ‘we can’t depend on a man.’ We’ve seen so many of our homes become single- leaving our little boys to be raised by women.
I get it…I WAS that woman that felt like I had to be the rock of the family; I was not going to submit because I didn’t ‘trust’. But no sir, I now gladly give that weight back to my future husband. I’m here to add to you, to assist you, to provide all of my delicate yet powerful intricacies, in order to make this flow better baby. That’s my role. I know it. #FollowTheLeader
I truly pray that this helps someone that’s battling being submissive or the role of submission. We submit to one another…but lighten your load sis. Give it to God and God will give IT to ‘him’ (husband). “It” being whatever he needs to be a better provider, protector, leader, and etc. You cannot CHANGE him nor attempt to take on his role simply because he’s failing as a leader, the provider or whatever. You take it to God in prayer, and THERE… is where change and growth will take place.
I’m coming down your aisle in just a few…hold on, I’ll be back. J
Now go in peace.